When I look back on my first few years after playing ball, there are so many pieces of advice I wish I could tell that nervous 21 year old. I had so many questions like “how will I find a job in this recession”? (it was 2009), and “what will I do without my team and the routine I had as an athlete?” and “how will I be able to afford my own apartment, insurance and other costs?” There are so many lessons I’ve learned along the way that I wish I could tell my past self. These pieces of advice come from experience, trial and error, and the wisdom that comes with time and age.
10 Pieces of Advice for My 21-Year-Old Self
Embrace Roles That Make You Uncomfortable. With my marketing degree, did I want my first job out of school to be in sales… for a team that had the worst record in the NBA!? Not at all. But I over time I learned that I grow the most when I step outside of my comfort zone. Find roles and opportunities that challenge you, even if they make you feel uncomfortable or unsure of yourself. It’s in these moments of discomfort that you’ll discover your strengths and build resilience. Don’t shy away from these opportunities; embrace them with open arms.
Be Ready to Learn – A Lot. I had to check my ‘former DI ego’ at the door and be ready to start from scratch. The years after college or professional sports will be filled with learning. You’ll encounter new ideas, technologies, and ways of thinking that will shape your career and personal growth. Stay curious and open-minded. Take every opportunity to learn, whether it’s through formal education, on-the-job experiences, or conversations with mentors and peers. Remember, learning doesn’t stop when you graduate; it’s a lifelong journey.
Be Okay with Failure. If I had a dollar for every time I messed up in my early years, lets just say I’d be able to treat myself to a fine dinner lol. Failure is not the end; it’s a crucial part of the growth process. You will make mistakes, and that’s perfectly okay. Each failure is a learning opportunity that will help you grow stronger and wiser. Don’t be afraid to take risks, and when things don’t go as planned, reflect on what you can learn from the experience. Embrace failure as a stepping stone to success.
Choose Your Advisors Wisely. This might take some time to figure out, especially if you work in a career where people can talk a big game. Be careful whose advice you take. Not everyone will have your best interests at heart, and some may give you advice based on their own fears or limitations. Seek guidance from those who have walked the path you aspire to follow, and who genuinely want to see you succeed. Trust your instincts and be discerning about the counsel you accept.
Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously. I’ve always been a rule follower, a person who takes things so seriously… to the point where I might not have enjoyed the journey as much. Thankfully, I grew up in a family of successful, ambitious and life-loving people who showed me it’s okay to crack a joke a break a rule every now and again. Life is a journey, and it’s important to find joy and humor along the way. Don’t get too caught up in striving for perfection or meeting every expectation. Allow yourself to laugh, have fun, and enjoy the moment. Taking yourself too seriously can lead to unnecessary stress and burnout. Remember to balance hard work with moments of relaxation and enjoyment.
Enjoy the Journey. It’s easy to get focused on future goals and forget to enjoy the present. While it’s important to have aspirations, don’t lose sight of the beauty of the journey itself. Celebrate your small victories, cherish your friendships, and take time to appreciate the experiences that shape you. Life is more than just a series of milestones; it’s a rich tapestry of moments to be savored.
Build a Strong Network. Never underestimate the power of your network, especially former teammates, coaches and administrators you’ve met throughout the years. Your network will be one of your greatest assets. Cultivate relationships with classmates, professors, colleagues, and industry professionals. These connections can offer support, guidance, and opportunities throughout your career. Networking isn’t just about what others can do for you; it’s about building meaningful, reciprocal relationships.
Prioritize Self-Care. I wish I prioritized self care earlier on in my career- especially when it came to therapy and being consistent with my workouts. It’s important to find that healthy balance of work and play, especially when you’re transitioning to life after being an athlete. Taking care of yourself is crucial for long-term success. Prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Find activities that help you relax and recharge, whether it’s exercise, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones. Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s necessary to maintain your energy and focus.
Stay True to Your Values. In the face of challenges and opportunities, always stay true to your values. I found out early that even though I enjoyed going out, having fun at a club or party, I wasn’t into heavy drinking or activities that would get in the way of my daily routines (spending time with family, working out, excelling at work, etc.). Your integrity and principles will guide you through difficult decisions and help you stay grounded. Don’t compromise on what matters most to you, even if it means taking the harder path.
Believe in Yourself. In life, you have to be your biggest cheerleader. Above all, believe in yourself and your abilities. You are capable of achieving great things, even when it feels like the odds are stacked against you. Trust your intuition, work hard, and have faith in your journey. Self-belief will carry you through the toughest times and propel you toward your dreams.
As you navigate the next few years, remember that you are not alone. Every experience, whether good or bad, is shaping you into the person you are meant to be. Embrace the journey with an open heart and mind, and know that your future is bright.